Forgive and Forget or Forget and Forgive

Is it worth a second chance? 


When your boyfriend cheated on you, do you think you can forgive and forget or forget and forgive? I don’t really know what to do right now. I think I still love him and he’s really aware about such fact. However, he cheated on me and I don’t know how to trust him again. I don’t know if I can still have good times with him when every time we are together I will think about his infidelity. I will not even deny that maybe when we are not together I may have doubts on his whereabouts. I don’t know if he is still worth a second chance. However, I will also be honest that part of me wants him back. I cannot really imagine my life without him. I am that in love with him, but part of me wants to let go. I just can’t decide what to do anymore. That’s why I am spending my time alone here in our rest house. I need a quite time to think about everything and to evaluate the situation. Have you been in the same situation before? 


If I will give him another chance, then I will run the risk of hurting my heart again. But my friends told me that there are no certainties in this world. For as long as you love the person it is always a risk and a gamble to invest your emotions. You will never know you will succeed in the game of love if you will never take the risk. Maybe the late Alfred Lord Tennyson is right when he said in one of his poems, “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” On the other hand, I just can’t afford to hurt my heart again. I do not know if I can learn to trust him again. But then I saw this personalized wood signs in front of our sofa saying about forgiveness. Then I heard on the radio a song by Michael Murphy entitled “What’s Forever For.” It is really driving me crazy!


We also used to plan for our wedding. I saw one of his gifts for me last Christmas and he told me that we will have the same gifts for the bridesmaid gifts and groomsmen. It is really a cute gesture and I find it romantic. It is just a simple gift, a Heart Personalized Necklace. But it made my heart skipped. 


So help me how do I solve my problem?